I know for a fact that every man fantasizes about bottoming, honey. That doesn’t mean they’ll actually go through with it, however, but there’s something about being submissive—letting it all go—that is universally stimulating.
Straight, gay, bisexual, it doesn’t matter. As men most of our lives are spent trying to prove ourselves to the world. When we’re born, society tells us we need to be breadwinners, pack leaders and bosses of our community. Weakness is not acceptable, and unfortunately, bottoming has been seen as some kind of weakness.
We have this idea that whoever gets penetrated is automatically inferior, that it’s somewhat emasculating. The whole thing is ridiculous.
This way of thinking still exists in the gay world. I remember first coming out and being terrified to bottom. That meant it was official: I was a real gay guy. But my small-mindedness also convinced me I was a lesser man for doing it. I wanted to hold onto as much masculinity as possible.
Guys who think bottoming makes you less of a man are seriously disturbed.
If you don’t like bottoming, that’s fine. Don’t do it. But if you’re like me—a versatile gentleman who every now and then gets thirsty to dominate a man—and you happen to be with a guy who claims to be a “total top,” trust me when I say all you have to do is get him out of his head.