Breaking up is never an easy thing to do, especially with someone you have profound respect for. Let’s say he has immense feelings for you, but the constant mentioning of your future together always gets you a little anxious. You want to break up in the cleanest way possible, but at this point it seems impossible.
According to studies, about 60% of couples do not have contact with one another after a breakup, but there are still many that do. Lesbians especially tend to nearly always stay in contact with their ex-lovers, but gay guys are a different story.
As the person who’s doing the breaking up, it can be hard to understand why he wouldn’t want to be friends afterwards, but try and see things from his perspective. Getting dumped, sucks. Staying friends with someone who’s broken up with you can be a constant reminder of how you “failed.” But it doesn’t always have to be this way. The secret lies in the strategy. Here are a few tips:
#1) Self-Investigate First
When the fire has burned out in your relationship, it seldom has to do with him. Nine times out of ten, it has to do with a change of heart or perspective. Stop blaming him as the reason why your feelings have gone away. Instead, use this time to self-investigate the cause. Maybe you’ve grown a apart from him, maybe you’re still clinging on to someone in your past, maybe your goals aren’t coinciding with his. Whatever the case may be, it’s always best to look at it from your perspective alone. During the breakup, it will be readable as such.