I used to think there were only two kinds of sex: good and bad. But after years of having a lot of it (and I mean a lot), I’ve realized there is an endless amount of sex experiences, including quick kind.
It’s rare for a quickie to be hot as hell, but sometimes it is. For anonymous escapades or come ‘n go scenarios to be enjoyable depends on whether you yourself are willing to limit the possibilities.
Personally I like to take time with my man, but every once in a while, when time isn’t on our side, a quickie is all we have—we might as well make it worth our while.
To be satisfied with a quickie, the other person needs to know what tickles you sexually. A wam-bam-thank you sir may get you off, but will it make you fulfilled?
We’re all so busy nowadays. Everyone is trying to get to the next level of their careers—all our focus is on work, side projects or other moves. Sex seems to be on the bottom of our list, which is why countless of business professionals opt for hookup apps: no attachment, no plans, just a quick NSA hookup.
Back when I had a 9 to 9 job, quickies were all I knew. I was single, busy as hell, and had an active Grindr account. For a guy with my schedule, sex needed to take a backseat. I didn’t have a problem with it, but after awhile, porn became more satisfactory than random hookups. Quickies became boring.
Quickies aren’t only for single people. Now that I have a man, there are plenty of circumstances when we decide to squeeze ten minutes in our schedule for a quick session. Sometimes it’s great, other times it’s not; but it doesn’t matter because we’re doing it together.
It’s easy to make a quickie count with your boyfriend because you already know what he likes. Not that I’m against anonymous sex but unless you’re lucky and end up finding a guy who’s great at everything, it’s likely that it’ll be another boring event.
Quickies are as only as good as they’re planned.
When I plan a quickie, I need to know what we’re doing. Let’s be honest, we’re gay. It’s not like we can have anal sex at the drop of a hat—you need time to prepare (if you can do it at the drop of a hat, I envy you).
Are you going to dry hump? Have oral sex? Maybe a little more?
What you’re lacking in time you need to make up in fantasy. If you ask me, I’d say always leave him wanting more. Sure you might go until you both finish but if you consider the “quickie” being merely an appetizer, then you’re guaranteed for him to return.
You’re never going to be able to achieve everything in five minutes, so stop trying. The whole point is for it to be a snack for the appetite. If you want the whole enchilada, you’re going to need a bit more than a lunch break, honey.
Take it for what it is. Trust me, specificity is key.