Approaching guys who are seemingly out of your league is one of the hardest things a single gay guy can do. At the end of the day it’s a complete reflection on how we value ourselves. If we don’t think we’re good enough, we won’t even bother. If we think we’re above and beyond, we’ll have little worry about starting a conversation. It starts with our own feelings about our worth, but no matter how confident you might be, everyone needs a little boost. Here are a few strategies to help you get there:
Don’t be afraid to acknowledge it out loud.
“Hi, I’m usually a little nervous and shy, but I wanted to walk over and flirt with you anyway. I’m _____.”
Believe it or not, calling it like it is will bring you more results than you think. Better you admit that you’re slightly anxious than to be a nervous wreck pretending to be more confident than you actually are. It’s funny to be forthright without any pretense. Usually you’ll get a laugh because who wouldn’t be flattered at the thought of someone feeling nervous about approaching them? Saying it out loud helps forces you to recognize it, which will allow it to disappear.