Don’t Apologize for Asking If I’m Gay


sorry not sorry

Sorry, but I’m not sorry for feeling offended when people apologize shortly after asking if I’m gay. Its not like we apologize for asking if someone is straight. So why does everyone act like its such a terrible thing? Because we allow it to be, that’s why. I can definitely understand if someone is still not fully comfortable with their sexuality and still transitioning in coming out. But for all you openly gay men like myself, stop acting like this doesn’t bother you.

It’s our fault that society has become so accustomed with thinking that being gay is a choice, not a lifestyle. We need to stop brushing it off our shoulders and thinking its not a big deal and start standing up for what we believe is the “right” thing to do. You should be proud that you are gay and can love someone unconditionally, just like everyone else in this world. Love doesn’t discriminate, and you shouldn’t either.

I cant tell you how many times someone has approached me as if their walking on egg shells any time the word “gay” comes into conversation. If I didn’t come out of the closet to my closest friends, family, loved ones, and all of Facebook then that would be a perfect reason to keep your comments to yourself, but that’s not the case here. I want everyone to know I’m gay, not for the attention, not for the sympathy, but because I’m truly happy this way. I didn’t choose to be gay, and I truly believe its something you’re born with. And you know what? I’m perfectly fine with that.Lady Gaga once said, “Baby You’re Born This Way“. Embrace it.

So for all of you who apologize for asking if someone is gay, stop. Right now. This is the 21st century my friends, and its time we start acting like it. Things are changing all over the world, and we are finally receiving the rights we deserve. And things will continue to change in the right direction, but only if we stop conforming to our society and stand up against our inner demons. Join me in the fight to promoting equality, leading by example. Don’t live in fear of what others are going to think.

If God has wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise”.
–Johann Wolfgang