Many Guys in the Gay Community Are Attracted to Older Men, So What…
Old age has changed significantly over the last century. An elder person used to represent wisdom and respect, but today it’s morphed into something scary. In the gay community, there seems to be an unfair philosophy of “out with the old, in with the new.” But, a funny thing is beginning to happen. More and more younger gay men are not hiding their attraction to older men and are seeking them out. Should this be a good thing?
I have a friend who’s considered by many to be a silver fox. Admittedly, he’s not the best looking guy in the world, but he has a full head of hair with sexy grey stripes on the side that drives men wild. Lately, he’s been seeing an interesting change.
“I’ve always been attracted to guys in their late twenties,” he confessed to me recently, “I think everyone kind of is. I never thought they’d be attracted to me, especially now that I’m 46. When I was 25, I didn’t get their attention nearly as much as I do now. It was like as soon as I turned 40 the same type of guys I tried to get with in my twenties started looking at me differently. I don’t know why it changed, but it’s so crazy I sometimes have to ask myself where the hell was this when I was 25?”
My friend isn’t the only one. Plenty of guys have expressed similar experiences to me, but for whatever reason, gay guys become cautious when it comes to this subject. Many are quick to call it a fetish, while others say it’s because an immense drop of intellect within our digital culture.
With so much technology blossoming, younger people are slowly forgetting how to connect. It always amazes me how easy it is for guys in their early twenties to rely on digital apps – so much more than guys in their forties, fifties, and sixties. There are a lot of younger guys, however, who aren’t affected these inventions. Whenever they feel disconnected from guys their own age, an older man seems to be the perfect match.
Personally, I don’t think age matters at all if younger guys have an attraction to older men. We all exist on different intellectual and psychological spectrums. When two people happen to coincide on the same tune, rarely does it have to do with age. We see that all the time in lesbian relationships where one is significantly older than the other. Women respect age a lot more than men do, I find. They admire the wisdom that comes with it. Men, however, are visual creatures. Gay men in particular have become infamous for not only worshipping youth and beauty, but also isolating anyone who doesn’t fit into the category.
Getting old sucks, no matter what people say. But the reason why we think it sucks is because we assume the rest of the world is going to change their perception of us. We half-expect to be tossed aside like an old suitcase, but trust me when I say there’s a change on the horizon when it comes to the attraction of older men.
Younger gay guys, whether it was created by fetish or a need to connect, are becoming more aware of their elder counterparts than ever before. Does this ultimately have the power to change the world’s idea of beauty? One can only hope.
Do you think there’s a problem with younger guys having an attraction to older men?