Relationships are like a gondola ride (go with me here). Love is the water inside the canal, meaning it keeps our relationship afloat. But gay romance is the wind and ore that pushes us forward, without it the journey will be stationary and boring. A relationship empty of romance is like a car without gasoline. It’s the fuel that drives our passion, but lately we seem to be running on empty.
Don’t you wish there was an app for romance? No amount of technology will ever be able to solve the absence of it. The only thing we can do is offer up our own experiences. With so many gadgets infecting the gay community today, I’m beginning to think that romance has become a thing of the past. In an effort to try and revive it, we ought to investigate the things that are missing. Here are few to consider:
#1) Sensitivity Towards Love & Intimacy
It’s almost impossible to separate sex from intimacy because sex is innately intimate. But because intimacy is also inherent with love, we often find it easy to desensitize ourselves from love when we have too much sex. In other words, when sex becomes the only focus, we tend to forget about building an emotional foundation with our partner.
Intimacy is important for romance in general, gay or straight. But in the gay community, apps like Grindr, Scruff and BoyAhoy are always being used. Even if you don’t have a profile, you know someone that does and probably hear about it once a day. You know it’s there. Sex is becoming unimportant, even meaningless. Gay guys of this generation are used to starting out their newly out lives by experimenting on hookup apps, and by the time they meet a compatible person, unless they’ve been cautious of their feelings, they can desensitize themselves from intimacy and all its qualities.
Work from the heart before you hit the sheets. It will build a solid infrastructure beneath your romance, which keeps you balanced throughout the duration of its life.